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Potty Training Triplets

I have mentioned before that I have triplets now. They are 2 years old (going on twenty I think). It’s a joy. Most of the time. The rest of the time I wonder where my sweet babies have gone and who switched them with the little hellions from outer space.

We have passed several hurdles. The first was sleeping through the night. My kids were good sleepers. And we had no real issues. They were born at the beginning of April by their first Mother’s day they were sleeping at 5-6 hour stretches at night. By Father’s day they slept 8 hours regularly. We just switched them to toddler beds instead of cribs and they didn’t have any issues. But they do like getting up at night. Sometimes. P1070344

Our second hurdle, was weaning. I have taken the long approach to weaning. My goal was to make it to two years.  I researched the subject often and decided that this was the best course of action was a longer exposure to breastmilk decreases the risk of developing type II diabetes. We have type I and type II diabetes in our family. So I decided it was best for them. We are now officially no longer nursing.  They have been off the bottle for a long time so the only time they got breastmilk was when they nursed. They take regular milk at night, but they don’t get bottles. We use no spill sipper cups. They also use straw sippers. Once we get them to not turn over their cups regularly, we’ll move on to normal cups.

The third hurdle that we’re attempting to handle right now is potty training. This is a pretty big issue for us because there are THREE OF THEM. And one of me. Daddy is gone is most days with work. So it’s just me trying to potty train all of them. And I have felt more than once that I’m outnumbered. We started off once a day on the potty. Then I use a combination of cloth and disposable diapers (cloth during the dat at home, disposables at night and when we go out). We recently upped potty time to twice a day. When they get up from nighttime and when they get up from naptime.

potty-trainingAnd this is taking forever. They are more than happy to tell me that they have dirtied a diaper but they have shown reluctance to using the potty. Right now they get treat whenever they use the potty. But there are some days, sometimes several days in a row when no one uses the potty even once.

I have read about the three day potty training. And if I had only one kid. No problem. I would do it. But with THREE?! Oh heck no. If I tried the three day potty training several things would happen. 1. The only thing I would have time for is putting kids on the potty. 2. I wouldn’t get any sleep. 3. I would be doing laundry all the time.  For at least three days. So I guess you can imagine why I’m not ready to try this. Many of these “fully potty trained” children in three days the parents still get them up at night several times to go potty.

I have also read the “let them run around naked.” My answer is: Not Happening. My son gets his diaper off often enough without that and has peed and pooped on my carpets several times because of this. I really don’t want my home to smell like an outhouse.

Until they are potty trained though, we continue to spend $100-$200 a month a diapers. Are there any other tips on potty training triplets? If I had more help, and less room for the children to terrorize me with, I’d be happy to try the three day method. Maybe I should just let my boy go outside naked. I’ve been told that helps. But then again, it’s so freaking hot (yesterday’s high was near 100) so maybe no.








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Happy Birthday to Me.

My birthday is coming up. And I’m not entirely sure how I feel about it. I’m no where close to where I once thought I’d be at this particular point in my life. It’s not even a “milestone” age. I just once thought I’d be, if not a published writer, then at least successfully pursuing a career somewhere.

But I’m not. I’m a stay-at-home mom of three little ones. And this is something I have never dreamed that I’d be. There are days that I love being able to stay with my kids all day. Then there others where I really don’t want to share a room with them by 10am and I have them to myself for another eight hours.


But I really shouldn’t complain. There are many people who want to be able to stay at home. I’m lucky that we can “afford” for me to be here with my kids.

And what I mean by that is the cost of childcare for my children is currently more than most jobs I could get. So it’s more affordable for me to stay here. Originally I thought “Yay! Lots of free time to work on my writing!”

What happened was: change a diaper. burp baby. wipe up the mess. Rock them gently. Teething! Then when they turned a year. Oh My God! They’re walking. No you can’t go there. Put that back. You’re going to break it! Now they’re two. And it’s potty training all day. Don’t you dare sass me. Put that back. You took your diaper off…AGAIN! And pooped on the rug. Sigh.

Still. The more independent they get, theoretically I get more time. Most of my writing even now is a sentence here. A few words there. If I’m lucky I’ll get a whole paragraph down.

But I’ve realize that if I really want to write I’ll make time for it. I’ll get up a few minutes early. Even an hour early doesn’t guarantee a full hour writing though. I’ll try to stay up a little later.

I have been participating in Camp NaNoWriMo. And I said this is the year that I win! I said that every year. But I’m making it a priority this year and I have stayed more or less on track. Yes there was one day that I only wrote 100 words. But I’ve also had a 2000 word day. And multiple 1800 word days that more than made up for it. I have sixteen days left and I’m siting at 25810 words of all brand new story.

Smiling Mother And Daughter

I’ll also write while they nap. This is my heaven time. They’re all asleep and I have anywhere from 1 to 3 hours of ME time. I often don’t spend all of it writing. I’ll do a little of everything during this time. But my two favorite activities: a nap, and writing.

But back to my birthday. No I’m not where I thought I’d be. I’m in a completely different world. However, I am making finally making this world work for me. And all I want for my birthday is a day. Yep. One whole day where I don’t have to lift a finger for housework, or taking care of kid and I can sleep and write to my hearts content.

Yeah. Like that’d happen. I suppose I’ll have to settle for the composter I’ve had my eye on for years and a new book. Maybe a little bling for my car. So happy birthday to me.


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How the personal affects the professional

We’ve all seen it. That point in your life where suddenly everything is happening at once. And that’s kind of where I am right now.Graduate school is still in full swing, work is going well at 20 hours a week.  I’m married, but we’re having a ceremony so all the family can come down. As if that wasn’t enough, I’ve got the personal/professional goal of finishing several short stories, and starting to edit my completed novel. Somewhere, something has to give. Either that, or I need to invent a time machine, so I can go back and relive several days so that I can complete everything that needs to be done. Oh, and taxes need to be finished too. Sigh.

While I am more confident in my schooling, I still have five more classes to go before I graduate. Since my GA position pays for 2 classes a semester, that makes three more semesters after this one is over. Oh, and my GA expires at the end of the year. Time to start looking for a job in the real world.

I’m told that planning a wedding should be fun. I don’t even have a budget yet. But I do have a date, and  a theme. Medieval. Full regalia. On the plus side, that could actually lower the cost of the wedding dress. But we definitely are looking at this thing from two sides. I’m practical, and cheap. He wants something grand and memorable. I wouldn’t mind grand and memorable, if I won the lottery and could afford it. The average cost of a wedding these days: $27,000! That’s more than twice what I make in a year (minus the tuition waiver). I’m constantly thinking of ways to cut costs, and he’s constantly thinking about ways to make an impression.

Since May of last year, I’ve lost 30 pounds. Not too shabby for someone who never seems to find time for exercise. I do try to walk (and by the way: I did make it to Rivendell last year, just one day before my deadline). After talking with one of my best friends, who looks amazing after losing 50 pounds in far less time, I realized the secret is movement. I’ve sort have always know that. But she rides her bike 3 miles 3 times a week. And has lost 50 pounds since October. Looks like I know something else I’m adding to my to do list.

With that on my plate, I’m not sure how I’m going to find time to write, although I have been writing. Google docs is my best friend. I can write from anywhere there’s a computer and internet access…which means…just about anywhere. I did finish one short story, but haven’t had the time to edit it yet. Or the much bigger project of editing my novel. And that great idea I swear I had, still have it. But I haven’t started it. Sigh. I know that if I want to make it as a writer, I need to make time to write. And I do. Just not nearly as much as I’d like.

Sometimes, when my personal life gets too full, I feel my writing slipping. And when push comes to shove, the writing falls completely by the wayside. I don’t want that. Something has to  give. But does it really? The more I think about everything that’s going on right now, the more I feel like I’m drowning. Maybe things will get better if I don’t think about it. Maybe, if I take a few calming breaths, I’ll realize that things are not nearly as crazy as they seem. And maybe I’ll actually get everything done, while keeping my “me” time, staying sane, keeping up my grades, losing weight, planning a wedding and keeping up with my writing. It’s possible I’m sure. I know some awesome women who have full-time jobs, are going to grad school and have children at home as well. With that in mind, it must be possible to do everything I am trying to do.


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