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How the personal affects the professional

We’ve all seen it. That point in your life where suddenly everything is happening at once. And that’s kind of where I am right now.Graduate school is still in full swing, work is going well at 20 hours a week.  I’m married, but we’re having a ceremony so all the family can come down. As if that wasn’t enough, I’ve got the personal/professional goal of finishing several short stories, and starting to edit my completed novel. Somewhere, something has to give. Either that, or I need to invent a time machine, so I can go back and relive several days so that I can complete everything that needs to be done. Oh, and taxes need to be finished too. Sigh.

While I am more confident in my schooling, I still have five more classes to go before I graduate. Since my GA position pays for 2 classes a semester, that makes three more semesters after this one is over. Oh, and my GA expires at the end of the year. Time to start looking for a job in the real world.

I’m told that planning a wedding should be fun. I don’t even have a budget yet. But I do have a date, and  a theme. Medieval. Full regalia. On the plus side, that could actually lower the cost of the wedding dress. But we definitely are looking at this thing from two sides. I’m practical, and cheap. He wants something grand and memorable. I wouldn’t mind grand and memorable, if I won the lottery and could afford it. The average cost of a wedding these days: $27,000! That’s more than twice what I make in a year (minus the tuition waiver). I’m constantly thinking of ways to cut costs, and he’s constantly thinking about ways to make an impression.

Since May of last year, I’ve lost 30 pounds. Not too shabby for someone who never seems to find time for exercise. I do try to walk (and by the way: I did make it to Rivendell last year, just one day before my deadline). After talking with one of my best friends, who looks amazing after losing 50 pounds in far less time, I realized the secret is movement. I’ve sort have always know that. But she rides her bike 3 miles 3 times a week. And has lost 50 pounds since October. Looks like I know something else I’m adding to my to do list.

With that on my plate, I’m not sure how I’m going to find time to write, although I have been writing. Google docs is my best friend. I can write from anywhere there’s a computer and internet access…which means…just about anywhere. I did finish one short story, but haven’t had the time to edit it yet. Or the much bigger project of editing my novel. And that great idea I swear I had, still have it. But I haven’t started it. Sigh. I know that if I want to make it as a writer, I need to make time to write. And I do. Just not nearly as much as I’d like.

Sometimes, when my personal life gets too full, I feel my writing slipping. And when push comes to shove, the writing falls completely by the wayside. I don’t want that. Something has to  give. But does it really? The more I think about everything that’s going on right now, the more I feel like I’m drowning. Maybe things will get better if I don’t think about it. Maybe, if I take a few calming breaths, I’ll realize that things are not nearly as crazy as they seem. And maybe I’ll actually get everything done, while keeping my “me” time, staying sane, keeping up my grades, losing weight, planning a wedding and keeping up with my writing. It’s possible I’m sure. I know some awesome women who have full-time jobs, are going to grad school and have children at home as well. With that in mind, it must be possible to do everything I am trying to do.

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First of March Update: Walking to Rivendell

I honestly didn’t intend this to turn into a fitness blog with updates of my Walking to Rivendell challenge. But on the first of March, I’d like to say how happy I am that (drum-roll please) I met my quota! Woohoo! For the first time I met my quota for averaging 1.4 miles a day. Which means instead of having to average 1.5 miles this month, I can still shoot for 1.4 miles.

My work and school are also both going very well. I’m getting A’s in both my classes, and am thoroughly enjoying my work. I’m currently in charge of a preserving a collection of slides from the 40s and 50s. The database I inherited was in terrible condition, but I’m ironing it out and working on it with enthusiasm.

And for more good news, my fiance and I have decided to buy a house. While this is just one more thing to do, we have both started looking with enthusiasm. We have found a couple of houses that are “possibilities” but almost all the houses down here need at some work, and that is making us a little hesitant.

On the down side, I haven’t been nearly as happy as I could be, and it’s my own fault. I haven’t taken the time, as I should, to be writing for pleasure. In fact, I haven’t written anything since the beginning of February.  And I haven’t found the time to edit my novel either. It seems to me that something has got to give, sooner or later, and I’m looking forward to summer, when work will be slower, which might give me a little more time to do everything I need to and still have time to do the things I want to.

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